I think in this area of study and especially with my personal experience going from a guy who couldn’t approach to having complete comfort where ever I go, it really comes down to being about the long term process. With all the crazy magic pill marketing it can be a little difficult to feel like you can achieve results.
The reason for this is that a lot of the “mentality” of the training and information out there sets you up to fail. I remember when I started off, I would study some tactic or technique that was supposed to get me x result, I would then go out and try it and it wouldn’t give me that result.
So in my naive state of mind I would be forced to go back to the drawing board searching for that special new technique or method that would work for me. It was endless.
What I didn’t realize at the time was that for you to experience full blown earth shattering change and transformation that it was all about baby steps. Counter intuitive yest but the only real answer is persistent long term action. Learn one skill at a time and become proficient at it until you can move to the next one.
This is one thing that I would advocate for you. If your stuck at a certain point in game then back up becuase the problem probably happened because of something you did before. What you think happened isn’t the real cause. So the best bet is to start focusing on the fundamentals one at a time.
1.Get your motivation to create change down.
2. Get your goals in order so you know what to do.
3.Handle your approach anxiety.
4.Then work on your ability to start conversations and open consistently.
5.Once you have done that worry about staying in conversation for as long as possible and getting to know the girl before you ever worry about attraction or escalation.
My point is that these major mile stones will take anywhere from a day to a few months to handle each. In my case it was longer. It took me years toget my motivation to truly change set and to set my goals and decide what I really want was difficult. It took me months to cultivate the ability to start conversations and another year to be able to stay in them forever.
I say this not to discourage you but to give you my time frame, I am sure that you are at a better starting point then I was years ago. Just by the fact that you have a resource like this, to help you is simple amazing. I say this because to really get change and to really learn this stuff and start having real results in your life, in reality its going to take time. Not a weekend but anywhere from 3 months to 6 months before you start really becoming competent and longer to become consistent.
It can be done.
Through out high school I was always the “quite shy guy.” I didn’t talk a lot and even through out the first few years of college I was labeled as the quiet guy. I always felt I would give anything to change that and then I read the game. Slowly through a few years of development I worked at it. I watched every product I could get my hands on.
Then I cut a lucky break and learned one of my high school friends had gone out to project hollywood which is mentioned so infamously in the game. Then slowly I transformed into the loud guy talkative guy; the one who is the center of attention. It still blows my mind when I ask girls what their impression of me is and they tell me I am the guy who is always the center of attention. BUT only after I get this real world feed back do I realize that it worked.
If it worked for me, I know it can work for you.
The key is that you need is ongoing studying and ongoing practice where you learn one still at a time. If you do that and focus your energy on learning one thing until you are decently proficient in it and then move to the next one you will start to experience amazing real change in your life. You will start getting the results in your life.
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